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"Some wounds never Heal, they Bleed in form of Memories"

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  Published by A.K  Memories are an important part of our life. They are mostly linked to our past experiences, events and happenings. But there are some incidents in our life which make us different, different from the other people. We seem to be with others but lost somewhere else. These incidents changed our personality, disposition and attitude towards life. Everyone has their own demons to fight, but some demons become so powerful that they haunt us for the rest of our life. The discussion about cheerfulness, happiness and positivity seem nothing to us. We exist in this world but stopped living our life. When we sleep those incidents haunt us. We try to live with other people but we seem, misfit, it seems that we have lost some of our personality. We started to look at this world with a new perspective. It’s easy to say that you should do this, or do that but it remains utterly meaningless to us. Some times our past leaves such scars and wounds in our heart that do not heal over t

" People are like Moulds, Become what we Say...Be responsible with What you Say"

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  Published by A.K  In our life, we had an impression about each and every person, we encounter. Sometimes we just bottled us that impression but sometimes we speak up about them. Our perspective about people, their achievements, their goals plays a vital part in their life. When we say a lie, again and again, it started to seem as aa reality. In the same way, people are just like moulds, it is the perception of the society about them that made them either what society believes or completely opposite of their impression. It has a very deep effect on our personality that is beyond Imagination. If you continuously say about a person that he is very obedient, he will ultimately be one. If you call your wife beautiful, again and again, you make her feel beautiful and she will be started becoming a beauty. What our ears heard the perception about us, had a long-lasting effect on. Our psych. There is a joke linked to the effect of the perception that I really want to share with you. Once t

"Inner Beauty is far more Important than Outer Beauty"

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  Published by A.K Beauty has always been an important part of our life as human beings. We want to look at the beautiful person. In general, we feel drawn toward beautiful people. It makes us wonder at the person, to look at his or her beauty. Beauty has been an important muse for poets to write. Capture any novel, you will find a protagonist who is breathtakingly handsome or breathtakingly beautiful. We feel drawn towards beautiful people but Is physical beauty is everything? It reminds me of an essay by G.B. Shaw and made me realize that no! physical beauty is nothing as compared to inner beauty. It may engulf us in an instant by its raw beauty. It makes us bow before the beauty, but when we really felt that it's just beautiful outside and the inward is like complete opposite, we made a run. I am not saying beauty isn't important, ask a girl maybe her whole life revolves around the care that how she appeared in front of others. But why is that? Because beauty is not a thing

"Never lose your loved ones because of Ego..."

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Published by A.K  We are just so engrossed in our own thinking that we ignore that what the other person might think. We want to call out that person but we under the umbrella of our ego, do not let anyone know our true feelings. Sometimes, things could get better. We can get back our love by simply lowering our ego and apologizing for our mistakes. This also shows us that the reality or intensity of our feelings for another person. Sometimes it is just a simple apologizing on your behaviour. When you let go of a person because of your ego and not because of a genuine reason, usually you regret that later. Everyone in our life isn't the same. Every relationship and connection have various places in our heart. This is the basic reason behind that we always compare the other person with the other. We don't form that bond with others. If you loved a person deeply, don't let him or her go, don't make them leave you. When you give more importance to a relationship than t

"When a tree Cut Down..."

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  Published by A.K Have you ever experienced cutting of a tree? Well, most of us had some memory of cutting a tree. It seems so insignificant as it seems, a tree which has spent year after year growing his branches and root to stand tall in its place, cut down in such a way it never existed. I don't know but after watching birds whirling around that tree, I felt their grief. They sit on a wire, watching their home. It might never occur to them that when following their daily routine, going to look for their food in the morning, when they will be back home, there will be no home for them. I don't know, why I felt that way. It's pretty common for us to do that, to snatch children of animals and imprisoned them for their enjoyment. We have got the nerve to make everything yield in front of us. I really don't know why I am being harsh, because this was just a matter of convenience for human beings to destroy nature and its prospect because we are human beings. We are th

"Friends" have a Separate Part in our Heart..

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  Published by A.K There are some people in our life who are like oxygen to us, they gave us strength and power to face difficult times. Those people are friends, we never get a chance to choose our parents or siblings but we choose friends. Whenever we feel frustrated over anything, coffee with a friend can solve everything😊. You just blabber in front of your friends and they understand what you are trying to say. Such people are blessing in your life, who understand you at most of the times. They are fun, chatty, stupid, sometimes cute and sweet creatures (seriously 😉). Making friends is a healthy recreational activity. It boosts your esteem and confidence because you indulge in discussions, debates and talking. Friends are the people who can change your mood in seconds. They can stimulate you in surprising ways (seriously surprising😏). Having friends is also good for mental health (because they already finished half of your brain😱😜). You laugh with your friends, enjoy thing

Small things? I guess, Not so small...

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Published by A.K  It is always said that  "Enjoy the little things in life because after some time you will feel that those were not little at all". Sometimes a small act of kindness can make people smile brightly. In today's world, we have attributed happiness with things, therefore we are not happy. We focused on things that if we get this thing or that thing then we will become happy. Happiness is, in fact, a very simple thing. We can achieve it by simply accepting reality. It is said that happiness is an inner matter. It can be achieved from very minor things.  To become happy, we don't need major things in our life. These are just minor things that actually make us happy.  There are many things in life which we ignore by thinking them as worthless but they are the things which can make our day. These tiny things can make life wonderful. A simple hug can make your life miraculously beautiful. Lao Tsu's poem reflects these emotions very artistically and bea

The Cycle of desires...one "Wish" generates another

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 Published by A.K There is a feeling that we all know about, the feeling of unfulfillment. We feel it at times that we do not have such house, such car, such bank balance, so and so and it goes on. This is a feeling full of discontentment when we are not satisfied with what we have. If you have it once a while in a blue moon, there is no need to worry but if you always had this in you, there is a huge problem. The main reason behind this particular feeling is the comparison, you feel bad when you compare yourself with others. The interesting thing behind this comparison is that we usually compare us with the people whose social status is up than us and do not try to compare ourselves with those, who have nothing or very little. If anyone wants to compare, compare with the people below your social strata, who have maybe less than you but they would probably be more content or happy from you. You have to believe the fact that happiness is not limited to resources or material goods, it

Surround Yourself with Upbeat people... A gateway to positivity

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  Published by A.K We came in this world with plenty of relationships, which are out of our control. Those relationships are fixed with us and are unbreakable, even if you hate them, you cannot end your relationship with them. But it's not like we aren't given any choice, our friends are the people that we choose. It is also in our hand to decide to surround ourselves with which kind of people (mostly). There are a lot of people who live around us, some are very kind and some are very rude. If we surround ourselves with decent people, it will have a good effect on our personality. But if we surround ourselves with corrupt people, it will ultimately lead to having a bad influence on us. It is natural that if your circle of people are dreamers, you are most likely to be a dreamer. If they are drug addicts or chain smokers, there is a high probability of your becoming one also because people influence us unexpectedly. In the same way, we also influence people directly or indire

A day of "the Chef"... When a foodie "Cooked"

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  Published by A.K Have you ever tried to become a chef? There are a lot of people, who can cook amazing food. and some people are foodies, who came in this world to eat the food that those outstanding chef made 😁 . But sometimes the foodies also try to test their skills (which already aren't present in them). They try to cook food by using all the resources and food. In today's world the fastest way to cook for a newbie to watch and follow(of course YouTube). We usually watch a video again and again so that we wouldn't miss anything from the recipe. Another interesting thing to notice is that even if you are watching one recipe by different YouTubers (Chefs), every recipe is different than the other. So, the first task always is to decide which recipe is to follow. Then the main battle starts, which is cooking. Very carefully we started gathering all the stuff needed for the recipe. We follow the recipe all the way to the last moment. Even the spices are mixed gradual

Your Eyes Fascinate me in the most Unexpected Ways…

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  Published by A.K Who doesn't know about the charm that our eyes have? Eyes are a crucial part of our body that makes us able to see this world. Without eyes, one cannot enjoy the beauty of this world. There is no doubt that eyes are a blessing, but the story doesn't end here. It also helps in maintaining our facial beauty. Well, sometimes you see a person and exclaims Hey! look at his eyes, seems like green sapphires 😲. We are very much devoted to the beauty of eyes (along with lashes). For centuries,  poets mused from the eyes and the fascination the pair of eyes hold. A lot of poets write about the beauty of their beloved, and the most beautiful feature is supposed to be their eyes. Sometimes we find big eyes beautiful, sometimes the colour of eyes attracts us and, in some cultures, bulging black eyes are considered beautiful. But in any culture eyes holds a special status. It has been part of every culture to use different products to beautify their eyes. Some use “kohl”

Have Crush on someone? A passing Infatuation or Love

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Published by A.K In our life, we sometimes have crush upon someone, if she is a girl, her hair seems to be shinier, her pimple started to seem like a simple to us(really?🤔). If he is a boy, he seems more handsome to us, his stupidity seem cute to us. In short, we just saw that person with covered eyes (not literally 😉). We want to look at that person, want to start a relationship with him/her for that matter. We look at those qualities which may not present in them at all. We notice every tiny detail about them, how insignificant that detail might seem to others. But it is just a passing feeling and sometimes we just starting to have a crush on another person at the same time. Psychologically it is said that if you had a crush on someone for four weeks straight, it can be termed as love 🤗. But what if that person hasn't seen anyone like him or her. Sometimes, we had a crush on the people who are out of reach (how? 🤨). Well, haven't you seen people lifting banners of movie o

Have we Become Cold to Avoid Getting Hurt?

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  Published by A.K Why we have become cold? Why the incidents and happenings of others life don’t have effects on us? Why we don’t feel sad about others tragedy? Why other's life lost any importance to us? It is seen and observed that whenever we heard about some catastrophic incident, we feel worried for just a brief moment (maybe seconds) and then the very next moment we forget about that incident altogether. All human beings are made of flesh and blood and all can feel hurt, upset, wounded, unhappy, brokenhearted and gloomy. When we go through some kind of pain, we feel like the world is crumbling and our pain is the real while if someone else is in the same kind of pain, their tears seem meaningless to us. When they express their grief, their grief seems to us like they are acting. Are we really that bad as human beings? The answer lies in our psychological defence mechanism, we feel hurt on seeing others hurt. But what we do because everyone wants to be happy in his life,

Is it difficult to Decide?

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  Published by A.K There are several things which are groundbreaking in bringing positive change in your life. The most important thing is the process of decision making. Our present life is the result of our past decisions and in the same manner, our future will be the product of our present decisions. If someone wants to have a different result, he has to make positive decisions. The decisions which actually control our life are the reflection of our focus, it shows that what matters in our life. We can only decide by taking the things into consideration which are important for us.  We must think before making a decision that is that decision will produce our desired results. Some tips may help you while deciding anything (hope so 😊). Don’t ever decide anything while you are angry. You have heard that anger made us blind towards all the things that are stepping stones in your way. We just decide anything and later we become apologetic that we made this decision. If you are angry

"Let go of people who bring you down" A Formula to be an Optimistic person

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Published by A.K There are people in our lives which make us feel like less. They make several demeaning comments on us in such a way that we started to feel like nothing. This makes us sometimes wonder whether we have any importance or worth🤔. Just try to ignore what they say because whatever you would listen about yourself, you would perceive yourself like that. Walk away from the people who make you feel guilty or bad whether he or she is your friend, boyfriend, girlfriend or whosoever. Don't let the people judge you by any means. Nobody would respect you if you cannot respect yourself. Sometimes walking away from is very painful and you cannot make yourself able to let go of those people. Just whatever you do never ever let anyone decide in your life that what is your worth(exactly 🤔).  In this world nobody is perfect, but there is no need to be perfect to be in a relationship with the person you always wanted to be.  Find the people who give you positive energy and make yo

Reality or Myth? Deciphering the truth of “Can One Please Everyone”?

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  Published by A.K Our whole life is almost surrounded around the effort and struggle of pleasing others. And if not pleasing, impressing others in one way or the other. Sometimes the “other” refer to our family as we work to prove our worth to our parents, family, peers, friends, bosses and so on. But even after doing everything in our power to satisfy others, we always have people who are against us, do not like our presence or our decisions for that matter. Sometimes they do not like us for our work, our background, our economic status, our appearance, our religion, our caste, our family, our determination or our being different and a lot of other reasons😭. Well, it’s a fact that you cannot please everybody. So, why judge ourselves with others perception? Every person in this world is unique. He or she has his or her own worth, irrespective of the other's notion about him or her😊. There are several people in this world, who criticize and even sometimes bully others because t

How to "LOVE" ourselves?

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Published by A.K We have heard a lot of times that we should love ourselves but we don’t know how to do it. There are some moments in life when we feel stuck, trapped, helpless and miserable and don’t know how to come out of these situations. These are the times when your whole self is shaken by something big. When you lose hope to see the light in your life. At such times a person wants to get out of his deteriorated state. Usually, people in such situations blame themselves for all problems, but this is just a form of self-abuse. There are a few ways from which we can learn to love ourselves. Never linger on unfortunate memories: It is a form of self-abuse to always loiter on ill-fated happenings of your life. Of course, life is an amalgamation of happiness and sadness. There will be moments in your life when you will be happy and also there will be moments when you will be sad. It’s not right that you always focus on bad things and completely ignores good things and happenin